It might be helpful to look at spanking in a different context. The Executive Office of Public Safety Web site defines "domestic violence" in this way: "Domestic violence is defined as a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviors and tactics used by one person over another to gain power and control. This may include verbal abuse, financial abuse, emotional, sexual and physical abuse. One of the first lessons that children learn is that it is acceptable for those who have more physical power and the control of economic resources to use that physical power and economic control to 'get their way.'"

Most Popular Stories Convicted Level 3 sex offender arrested for raping young boy in downtown public libraryAuthorities slam release of accused despite rough childhoodDartmouth man sent to jail on gun chargesThree charged in suspected drug ringTwo New Bedford men killed in Bourne car crashSex offender accused of molesting 6-year-old in New Bedford library53 acres on Sconticut Neck Road preserved As we may remember, it was once acceptable to believe that abuse occurring in the home, among adults in the family, was considered a "family affair." We have come to recognize that abuse of adults is no longer tolerable in our society. We have laws that mandate arrest of perpetrators of domestic violence — that is, violence between adults. We have also determined that some extreme acts of cruelty toward children are against the law, both legally and morally. That is, a parent or someone acting in the place of a parent will be criminally responsible for assault and battery where the force employed is beyond what a reasonable parent might inflict under the same or similar circumstances.

What we have not yet come to recognize is that the exertion of power over children, including the threat and use of violence (defining spanking as violence), is not an appropriate and basically healthy way to discipline. In fact, in the case decided by the Supreme Judicial Court in Cobble v. Commissioner of the Department of Social Services (1999), the court ruled that a parent's spanking of a 9-year-old child with a leather belt and leaving pink marks the next day with no bruising, combined with an explanation of the reason for the punishment and expressions of caring, is not unreasonable force.

The board of directors of Family Nonviolence Inc. takes the position that use of belts or other instruments on a child, under Massachusetts General Law 209A, is not reasonable force under any circumstances. Therefore, we have voted to submit to the Legislature as alternative to House No. 3922 a petition called, "An act prohibiting the use of belts or other instruments to discipline children." It includes this explanation: "The use of belts or other instruments to discipline children is not reasonable force and violates their rights to receive safe, secure and respectful care."